From Science Daily
A woman is six times more likely to be separated or divorced soon after a diagnosis of cancer or multiple sclerosis than if a man in the relationship is the patient, according to a study that examined the role gender played in so-called “partner abandonment.
The overall rate of divorce is consistent with standard divorce rates, but once one partner in a relationship is diagnosed with cancer or multiple sclerosis, then the biggest predictor of separation or divorce was the gender of the patient. If men became ill, women stayed and looked after them, but if women became ill, then the male partners were much more likely to leave.
The article politely suggests that the rate of women staying was because they are much more able to take on caring roles, whereas men found it hard to make the commitment. I’m a little more cynical than that. I wonder if it’s because many men are used to being cared for, and expect to be cared for, so if their partner is ill and can no longer perform the caring function, then why, they’ll just find someone who will.
SotBO (Statement of the Bleedin’ Obvious, which useful acronym I lifted from here): Most men with sick partners do not leave their partners. About 80% of men with sick partners stay with and care for their partner.
However, there is a huge disparity between the stay and go rates for women and men. Only about 2.9% of women with sick partners leave. The question is, why?
I believe that I vaguely promised a food post today, but right now I’m going to bed. So (vaguely), tomorrow, tomorrow…